There are ALWAYS Anxieties

 I'm writng this today from the perspective of an old Spiritual guy who made it this far in life.  I'm smoking my Dunhill with some Captain Bob's Blend this morning and decided to write about this topic for today.  My wife might worry about my pipe smoking, but I might give her more to worry about if I didnt smoke a pipe, which is my segue to my thinking today.  Love has anxieties as I'll explain below.  C. S. Lewis says that if you want to keep your heart intact, give your heart to no one--not even to an animal.  There's a lot more to his quote, but thar will suffice for now.  Lewis' wife died before he did and she was much younger than he.

A woman married her husband 19 years her senior and says she has anxieties about his age.  I read her story about how she worries about her husband who is 55 and she's 36.  She says she had no idea of the anxieties she has to live with.  Now, I have news for her, because when you love someone you'll have anxieties no matter what age you are or the age of your partner.  Her anxieties might be for different reasons, but love always has anxieties.  I could say it might be up to him to give her fewer worries, which she thinks he should do.

It just doesn't matter.  Wealth or lack thereof doesnt matter.  Love creates anxieties.  Period.  Every relationship based on love has anxieties, no matter what.  My wife once asked me when we stop worrying about  our kids.  I said we don't.  They're always our kids.  Love never stops worrying!  And age doesn't matter.  Love always has anxieties!  She's simply found out what it means to love someone.

Sure the odds of him dying before her are greater, but it seems to me age doesn't matter.  As parents we expect our kids to outlive us.  My two brushes with death have caused my wife to worry a bit more about me and maybe my kids worry a bit more.  But every love has its own anxieties.   It just does not matter.  There are given expectations, but the fact is, life has no guarantees.  No one has a guarantee about another.  I have to admit that at 36, she has a lot to learn about love, but I doubt seriously she'll see a fiftieth wedding anniversary, but then who is to say she won't?

This is why it is so important to live in the now.  And learning this is a little easier as we get older.  Youth has a lifetime.  As we age we get a little closer to the end.  But who is to say what the end is for anyone?  This is why we have today.  But my thinking is that she'll learn.  I could say that a 19 year difference is a big gap, but sometimes love chooses differently with different and with MORE anxieties.  

Cher is now 77 and found love witĺh a 38 year old man.  Is it forever?  And how much longer does Cher have to live?  She doesn't know and he doesn't know.  Love just has no boundaries.  Although I have to admit that a man my age falling in love with a teen would be rather strange, but it happens.  If she's underage then of course that is different.  At what age can a person understand the meaning of love?  

So, my thinking is that most everyone lose friends and loved ones, at all stages of life.  Life is full of the unexpected.  And everyone learns to just deal with it, because the unexpected happens.  Love always worries about the loved.  It doesn't matter about age or sex, or marriage or not.  It just happens.  That is what life is all about.  We embrace today and let God worry about tomorrow.  This is how we live.   I thank you for your time and Peace to each one of you.

Dave

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