More than a Feeling

 The rock group Boston had a good title for their song by the same subject for today.  It's a good song performed so well.  It's not a favorite of mine, but I like listening to it.  Love IS more than a feeling.  Falling in love is like a drug high, although I don't know a drug high.  Most people fall in love more than once, but such feelings do lead to marriage, but love is more than a feeling.  One works to keep those feelings from dying.  But as I said yesterday those feelings begin to evolve.

Most of the time I smoke a pipe when I am writing and I let my mind think and I share my thoughts here.  I'm not necessarily a student, but more of a free-thinker.  What I have is what is in my head.  Sometimes I'll Google a question or look up words, or maybe I'll read something and share it here.  But I AM more of an observer and not really a participant.  I have my own thoughts and feelings, but generally I try to separate my feelings from my thinking, although admittedly my thoughts tend to influence my feelings.

I'd make for a poor stoic, because I can't separate thoughts from feelings.  But while falling in love has good feelings staying in love takes work.  There is heart love and there is mind love.  It all begins with the self when we evaluate that which is best for the individual self.  But falling in love loses objectivity.  We could bet on a team because we want our team to win.  But being objective means we are certain the best team will win, but that might not be the team we WANT to win.  

When we bet with our hearts, it might not be the best bet.  Love isn't always that objective.  We want that love to be the best, so we project our feelings onto another person and hope that person feels the same way.  People WILL disappoint as sports teams will too.  In this week's Super Bowl, for example, the 49er's are predicted by the odds makers to win with a score of 25-23.  That is a very odd score of 25.  Would I take those odds or would I suggest a score of 28-26, which again is a very odd score?  Maybe 28-23 might be more practical, but if Vegas says the 49ers by two is five too much?  

And if I am a Chiefs fan, would I bet the Chiefs to win?  Love for a team is not the same as being in love with another, but the risks are still there.  You risk disappointment.  Is the risk worth it?  Too often love isn't that rational, because our feelings often,  are gambled instead of our thoughts, so we can't be separated from our logic.  Logic and feelings become the same, and as Spock would say, that isn't logical.

There isn't anything logical about love.  We're gambling totally on our emotions.  We just believe our team will win.  Logic might say otherwise, but emotions have no logic.  Our feelings make more sense to us than our logic.  Why?  Love feels good.  There are those who love being in love and go from one love to the next just for the high of being in love.  Just as a gambler is addicted to the high of gambling.

But if our feelings of love do win, logic says that to keep those feelings for that one special person, then love is logical and we use logic to keep those strong feelings of love.  Some people make it a lifetime goal and some don't.  An Alabama couole was married for 59 years.  He said he could not live without her.  She died in hospice care and he then died just eight hours later.  He was right and so their story is forever written.  

Not all love stories have such an ending.  But how is one to know?  Only time will tell.  Everyone who falls in love takes that gamble.  We just don't know.  Maybe if we did no one would fall in love or maybe the opposite would be true.  Today it is my Pierre Lamy pipe with some London Squire English tobacco.   I thank you for your time and Peace to each one of you.

Dave