Strange Topic for Today

 I wrote this several days ago and finished it up this morning thinking about today being Valintune's Day.  After today, I'll move on to other topics.

Divorce is a strange subject for today, but this is more than about one topic.  I won't get into the statistics right now, but those getting married have about a 50% chance for divorce.  In second marriages the divorce rate is about 60-75% with the number one reason for divorce being the lack of commitment.  It's a strange topic for today.  It's not always infidelity, but two people have to work together to keep a marriage together.  It's not one person to blame for divorce, but almost always both are at fault.  Divorce is always messy, which is why second marriages have a high failure rate.  

Marriages survive infidelity, but it still takes both to make it work.  And some marriages allow for infilelity and still work.  It just depends.  Two people who by their very nature who are different are seemingly thrown together and get married in every marriage.  Those differences can unite as much as they divide.  It just depends on what those differences are.  This is why romance is just a very small part of the whole.

It takes commitment of both.  It just depends on what that commitment is and how they each define it.  One being determined can influence the other, but there isn no magic formula except that one word.  Two people might not be given a chance and some defy all odds.  But that one word defines a marriage.  Some people don't get into the odds and choose not to marry at all.  Some survive all odds in such relationships.  

But really there is no magic formula that determines the life of any given marriage or any relatiinship in life.  Both can be committed to kids and sometimes that is the only thing that holds marriages together.  But to say there is a secret that might be that only two people know.  I don't have an answer after nearly fifty years of marriage.  Every marriage has its trials.  Some are different from others and infidelity is just another reason.  But some marriages and relatiinships even allow for it.

There is no magic formula except to take each day as it comes.  I'm not even sure similar religious beliefs have much to do with it.  Just that one word:  Commitment.   This is true of any relationship in life.  It's true for most anything, including financial success.  It doesn't matter.  My wife knows of my commitment to my Spirituality, so she allows for it.  I'm not sure any other woman would.  I've told her this many times over.  It's gotten in the way at times.  But she knows.  

I AM different.  I know this about myself.  I am very different.  But my Spirituality seems to always come first.  I'm committed to that.  It has been very divisive at times.  But I'm committed to life itself.  That seems to be my number one priority in ALL things.  How I achieve that is more up to my Guides than it is even up to me.  She can accept that although at times it can get in the way.  But she knows me.  I can't say no one understands, because now many do, whereas until more recently I WAS very muh alone.  But I chose to simply make it one day at a time.

And that is all life is.  We choose to make it one day at a time.  We can set goals and make plans but life is lived one day at a time.  It's been one day at a time for nearly fifty years.  Today is all we have and we make the most of each day.  I am committed to today.  I might say that most Spiritual people think this way.   

Well, those are my thoughts about love this morning.  I'm sitting on the patio by the pool this morning, having written this smoking some London Squire English tobacco in my Nording Number 2 pipe.  I'll wish each of you a Happy Valentine's Day.  I thank you for your time and Peace to each one of you.

Dave