The Key to Life and Love

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 I had another post ready for this morning.  I liked it yesterday when I wrote it, but read it this morning and decided not to post it and wrote this one instead.  I think this is the better of the two.

Love makes two choices.  It either grows or it doesn't.  There is only one factor that enters into it.  That one factor is determination, but it's only when two people are determined to make it work.  One person can be more determined and can influence the other, but that makes it even more difficultt for the one.  

But determination is the key to long-lasting love.  In the post I deleted I didn't feel comfortable getting too personal, which it was.  I'll be more general here and not focus solely on myself.  We've been married for nearly fiftyy years and that one word is the key to any kind of relationship.  Even friendship has the same key.  It's valuing another person enough to keep them in your life.  

I could write about C. S. Lewis' Four Loves this morning and say that any kind of love requires a determination to keep that love no matter what the relationship.  It is the one word we can use to succeed in life.  It's determination.  But determination has many factors involved and there are forces that influence determination about anything in life, whether it is business success, success with friendships, or success in love.  

How determined we are about anything in life just depends.  What is the expected outcome?   Determination is involved with anything we do if we want an expected outcome.  Love is no different.  One can be determined and the other isn't.  At what point do we decide to move on?  This is the question about anything we do in life.  Even the key to life itself is the determination to live.  

We just can't have a will to make something happen.  Everyone has a reason to live just as everyone has a reason to love.  Determination then is sometimes influenced by the choices we make and because we are human we have the freedom to change our choices.  But when it comes to making love last one can be determined and influence the other.  

This might explain why my wife and I have been married for nearly fifty years. The key to life, love, and living begins with determination.  None of us can see into the future, so what we have is today.  We can't change the past, but everything we do today shapes the future.  What no one knows is how much time they have left on this earth, which is why today matters.  

I like this one better than the one I wrote earlier about life and Love.  Some people we choose to love today we might find out tomorrow we are determined to live without them.  Hopefully, this is never the case, but the fact is this is why we live for today.  Tomorrow THAT choice could be made for us, and then where would we be?  This is why we live and love today and let tomorrow take care of itself.  I am smoking my Czech Jirsa pioe today with some Spiced Rum tobacco.  Thank you for your time and Peace to each one of you.

Dave 

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